Are you familiar with this image? Some people see the young woman first, some the old woman. And often they have trouble seeing the other even when someone points it…
Posts Taggedmental (re)conditioning
Why wait for crisis or trauma to make a change?
One of my good friends recently did something that surprised me. She bought a juicer. And not just any juicer — a top-of-the-line $300 cold press juicer. She’s also signed…
How to get more passion in your life (instantly)
I was speaking with a former client yesterday. He’s super smart, with a PhD in nanotechnology. He’s lived across Europe and Asia, and has a gift for connecting with people. He’s also a talented artist,…
How to shorten the agony of procrastination
Several years ago, I decided to enter a piano competition. I had about six months to prepare and my goal was to practice two hours a day during the week…
Are you too focused on your performance?
“Leading a meeting, negotiating a deal, doing an interview — you need to think of these as performances,” I used to tell clients. I said that to focus them on…
“You have to be realistic” and three other limiting beliefs holding you back
Once upon a time, I lived a magical life in Japan. There, opportunities unfolded in incredible ways, with ideal timing and ease: I put an ad in the local newspaper…
The Real Reason You Don’t Focus on What’s Important
Bruce Lee said, “The successful warrior is the average man, but with laser-like focus.” He should have added: laser-like focus on what’s important. Because, you know what’s most important, don’t…
Want to Bounce Back From Disappointment Quicker?
Do you know the story of the Chinese farmer? When his horse ran away, the neighbors came around to commiserate, “So sorry to hear your horse ran away.” And the farmer said,…
The Curse of Finishing Second (and Five Habits of Happy High-Achievers)
After finishing third in the men’s 100 meter race at the Rio Olympics this week, bronze medalist Andre de Grasse excitedly embraced Usain Bolt, who had taken the gold. While…
How To Stop Being A People-Pleaser (and Take Back Your Power)
“This feels too nice and polite to come from a ‘mental toughness coach,’” was my coach’s feedback when I asked him to review an email I had sent introducing myself to…